Browse Forums Building A New House 1 Aug 15, 2012 5:28 pm Anyone just got a list together with their partner and then gone to pre start on their own? Or do you have to both go for signatures? Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 2Aug 15, 2012 5:41 pm There is a lot to think about at pre start so 2 heads are better than 1. Also if the costs keep mounting with the options you need to discuss what compromises you make to keep in budget. If you go by yourself you need to be sure you have thought hard about the options. There is a thread called something like "What you forgot" that's worth a read to think about what you could have. There is also a fair bit of info about the options on my blog at: http://www.anewhouse.com.au/?cat=14 The Harder You Try - the Luckier You Get ! Web site http://www.anewhouse.com.au Informative, Amusing, and Opinionated Blog - Over 600 posts on all aspects of building a new house. Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 3Aug 15, 2012 5:53 pm Hi Donna61, We had our prestart yesterday. No way I could have done it alone but ours included all the Colour selections and I am not great at visualizing so when the prestart lady started putting suggestions together I couldn't tell if they would look good or not - my other half could though and so I just went with the flow! I guess it depends how interested your OH is and whether it will worry you about his opinion if you chose something he doesnt like later on down the track.... Personally, going together was easier and felt much more like a shared decision making process Building the Nautilus with Dale Alcock follow my thread: viewtopic.php?f=31&t=58854&p=909574#p909574 14/8/12 Pre-start! Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 4Aug 15, 2012 7:01 pm Has anyone seen the episode of '30 Rock' where they go to Ikea? It's like the ultimate test for the relationship. Feeling a bit that way!! Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 5Aug 15, 2012 8:05 pm I took a friend as OH was away, we had put most of our upgrades into the contract price prior to prestart though so it was not too bad. It's nice to have someone with you if just for another opinion. The electrical planning was much harder, I had a list from hubby and he had drawn on a copy of plans which helped. To be honest I don't think my OH would have been much help as he is so impatient and I was there all day. Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 7Aug 15, 2012 9:10 pm Yes my partner is very impatient as well. He is happy with any colour as long as it is black or white We were at Crosby tiles for about 10 mins and went to Brikmakers while the girl wrote up the tile specs!! Spent longer sorting out pavers He is an Electrician though so maybe if I keep my nose out of that side of it, I can do the interiors! We have decided to go with spec taps and showers, easily changed down the road. Bath already sorted, Benchtops, Formica, Basins, sinks, toilets - all sorted. I don't think he needs to come with Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 10Aug 15, 2012 9:38 pm I felt overwhelmed by choice, so DH and I selected items together. Luckily we have the same taste so it was easy. If your OH makes the decision with you, it also means down the track your OH can't point the finger at any decisions you made on your own. Building a house is definitely stressful and a test on any relationship. Good luck! SunshineT's Build: viewtopic.php?f=31&t=34585 Designs start: 4/12/09 DA: 5/7/11 Demo: 22/12/11 Slab: 24/2/12 Keys: 31/8/12 Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 11Aug 15, 2012 11:00 pm AC27 we both had to sign the ammendments, not sure with your builder if you can get away with just 1 signature but we required both of us Summit group send everything out in the post, so we both decided on some of the more costly items, signed and then sent it back for the variations to be finalized. Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 12Aug 15, 2012 11:42 pm donna61 bother....said Pooh Love this response, keep up the good work. Research is the key here. Be organized and it's a breeze. Can be fun, with a few drinks beforehand or during if you prestart people will abide. Some builders do inside and the outside choices at separate meetings, ours didn't . Did the lot in three hours. Did it again a year later for next place and I was a half hour late, Ms Echo had already picked it all. The key is research..And some confidence. It's your house, pick what you want, not what others will think. Luck Timeline Aug 08-Land Mar 09-Demo/Titles Sept 10-Handover No1 Sept 11-Handover No2 April 12-Sold No2 Aug 14-Land/Demo Jan 15-Slabs viewtopic.php?f=31&t=25736 Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 13Aug 15, 2012 11:46 pm Thanks for all the input guy's - have worded him in to prepare for a long day. Will be a few weeks away. Need to just try to put it all aside and relax for a few weeks while they draw up the plans. Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 14Aug 16, 2012 8:00 am I am in a rather fortunate position (I think) of having a husband who is not at all interested in the selections for the house. We have a budget & as long as it is adhered to (hmmmmm!), he is OK with it. He works long hours in a stressful job & does not want to be bother with taps, paint colours, lighting etc when he gets home. Suits me fine. I take along a friend/interior designer with me - she has been invaluable. Kerith - Building an Eden Brae Newport 40 in Sydney's North http://kerithsedenbraehouse.blogspot.com.au/ Re: Pre start without partner for sanity 15Aug 16, 2012 9:26 am Kerith I am in a rather fortunate position (I think) of having a husband who is not at all interested in the selections for the house. We have a budget & as long as it is adhered to (hmmmmm!), he is OK with it. He works long hours in a stressful job & does not want to be bother with taps, paint colours, lighting etc when he gets home. Suits me fine. I take along a friend/interior designer with me - she has been invaluable. Very similar situation to me. I know he will get frustrated. Will have to send him off to a sports bar I think halfway through. This certainly doesn't look good. I would be engaging with an independent inspector to have a look at this. 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