Browse Forums General Discussion Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 21Aug 15, 2008 1:10 pm I'm sure at the end of the day it will be okay for everyone......I hope!
Stormy, you will love it when you get to move back to your "dirt" Petal, just goes to show that even staying within your area things change. Neighbours have alot to do with having a happy life! Joeygbh, sounds like a new adventure for you too! And Petal's right, it's easier to meet people when you have children. They do open the doors. I'm actually quite a shy person around complete strangers, I feel do out of my depth. If I feel a connection or instantly like someone then I'm okay. We've had a few big moves, Brisbane to Melbourne, Melbourne to Worcester, UK and then back to Vermont and soon to Mernda. I hated living in Vermont when we moved here in 2001 I cried for months! We had been living here for 18 months and I was seven months pregnant when Steve came home and said "they want me to go to the UK". I looked at him and said "when can I start packing!" We left when DD was nine weeks old. I felt people around me and at school were so snobby, always busy and it was rush rush rush. Living with the Brits wasn't easy as they do shut themselves off but once you beak through the ice it was great. When we moved back to Vermont my over friendly, happy, helpful not-a-problem-at-all daughter had such a tough time settling into school because the girls would say "we've been friends since prep and you weren't here"! These were the same girls that she went to 3 and 4yo kinder with! That was grade 3 and she is now in grade 5 and still hears those comments. Doesn't surprise me though when you look at the Mum's, they are the same. My DS will have to start a new kinder next year, I am good friends with the 4yo teacher that he would have had if we stayed here and know that he would have had a fantastic year with her in 2009 BUT we went to meet his new teachers in South Morang yesterday and they were lovely. Kinder room was great, huge outdoor area, great facilities within the room and I know that he will have a ball. I cannot dwell on leaving, I will miss my friends that I see through out the week but you know we are only 45mins away and email is fantastic! If we hadn't of taken the gamble with our other moves then we would have never moved to Melbourne (although DH grew up here and his entire family live here), never been offered the chance to go to the UK, never would have travelled like we did or seen places that we have. So I look at this move as being another adventure. But if DH ever got offered an OS position again, I'd pack up and GO! Happy at Home Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 22Aug 15, 2008 7:54 pm We've moved nearly 300 kms away from our last house. renting 1.5 kms or so from where our new house will be built. IN someways it is hard. we've moved away from friends and family. We'd always wanted to move to the country. We picked a place where we knew no one. Wanted to be within 30 mins of the coast and near but not in a large regional town. I also work 60 kms away so don't get to know anyone local through work. I am hoping I can change this in the next year or 2 to somewhere closer.
Our eldest loves it. He was very unhappy at his last school and had had a miserable 3+years there. Tough time with lots of teasing etc. he said the 'kids here are so friendly and kind and really care about you". ( his words) . Our youngest misses his friends but after 6months is starting to develop new friendships although still hasn't had anyone over for a play. This will be happening soon. The hardest thing for us has been making/meeting adult friends with kids or even just making friends because where we are most of the kids live out of town and bus to school. At our kids ages ( almost 10 and almost 13) the parents that do live in town don't tend to wait at the classroom door anymore. so you don't get to actually meet any parents. DH is fairly shy ( my house Hubby extraordinaire) so finds it tough getting to know people in a small community. But we have made a couple of friends, slowly, discovered just last week we know one of our youngest sons best new friends Mum so we'll be able to organise that play date for him soon. YIppee. Being such a small town but also close to a regional centre means there isn't a lot on at night as people travel to the main regional centre instead. But i have found 1 activity I can get involved in. I've taken up mahjong. Other than that there is weekend football. urgh.. sorry football fans. We aren't a sporty family as such. Though youngest does tae kwon do here, again not many stay to watch their kids because they are older . Our youngest played soccer for 3 years solidly before we moved . Unfortunately there hasn't been a local team here for a number of years. But if your original reasons for wanting to move are still the same I would say Go For It! We have no real regrets and wouldn't want to go back. EDIT: Oh and as for not knowing anyone. We discovered last year just before we moved that my cousin's SIL lives here. And since moving I've met 2 other people I knew through work years ago who also live here. I only know them well enough to nod and say hello but it is still nice. DH just started working PT in the local store and one of the people works there. When she found out he'd started working there she made a point of going up to say hello to him and introducing herself which I thought was lovely. DH has not only managed to make friends with someone else who owns a business in town but has been talked into running a workshop there.( ok badgered into it) This has meant we've met a few more people and have just been invited to our first party. Blog http://wherethehearthis.blogspot.com/ Build https://forum.homeone.com.au/viewtopic.php?t=6634: Yard https://forum.homeone.com.au/viewtopic.php?f=19&t=27687&p=378401#p378401 Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 23Aug 15, 2008 8:03 pm That last sentence was great to read kexkez, you obviously are happy with your decision in moving you just need to make some local friends.
I think it definitely gets harder trying to meet parents when the children are older. My kids are 3, 5, 10 and 16 so I never see parents of the the eldest two friends. Kinder and playgroup was my saviour when we moved back to Melb 3 years ago. I'm really happy that your eldest has settled in and made some caring friends, 13 is a hard age to move schools. Sounds like it was the best thing for him. Hope Master 10yo finds some great mates soon. 300k's is a big move! How do you find the drive to work? Happy at Home Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 24Aug 15, 2008 8:13 pm The drive is lovely in the morning but I do find it a bit tiring at night. It takes me 45mins which isn't that long but its a lot at the end of a day of teaching a boisterous class. Of course I am driving at 110 and 100 all the way and the road has a bad reputation in parts so it's not a road to relax on.
I have applied to move closer for next year but my chances are slim. I'll keep trying for a transfer for the next few years and see how I go applying. Actually when I said I'd taken up playing mahjong- I haven't been for a while. They moved it to a Monday night for winter and it goes until rather late. I'm pretty much the only non retired person playing so they are all happy to play until very late at night. Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 25Aug 15, 2008 8:30 pm We are another lot moving not very far. We have been in the Yarraville/Footscray area for years (moving to Maidstone) and are very established there with friends, DH work, my work used to be there too. My family is near enough to visit/babysit regularly, far enough not be an intrusion DH's parents are way over the other side so that was always going to be a compromise for us.
However I have been interested to read this thread because we are ALREADY planing our next move we would love to do a tree/sea change in the next decade before kids go to high school. I just don't like the idea of my teenage kids hanging around the local shopping centre for kicks and the high schools around here (though I haven't done a lot of research into them yet) don't do much for me. DH wants to start his own business in next few years so hopefully the commute won't be an issue then (work from home). Interesting to read your story Kexkez - what made you shoose to live SO far away? We are thinking of moving maybe 1-2 hours out of Melbourne maximum... Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 26Aug 15, 2008 8:48 pm Donuts!! Come to Wallan!!! Brand spanking new High School! Just got allocated an extra couple of million in budget for further stage! And Assumption just up the road if you want private!
But can you buy an acreage? We need somewhere to keep the horses. My block's not big enough!!! Jo I leave you to fend for yourself, figure things out yourself. Terrence Malick Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 28Aug 15, 2008 9:07 pm Only 1/3 acre. On our estate you have to have an acre to keep horses. Makes sense. But the estate has an equestrian centre and day yards. I can barely ride but I'm aiming for the London Olympics.
Jo I leave you to fend for yourself, figure things out yourself. Terrence Malick Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 31Aug 15, 2008 9:35 pm Trust me...your kids will be fine!
We moved.....get this....9000kms on our last move!!! From the UK to Australia. My major concern was for my daughter who was 6 at the time. We'd had problems with her settling in school previously so were really worried. We needn't have worried though - she was absolutely fine. Bottom line is, it doesnt have to be forever. If it doesnt work out then you move on. Yes it might be a bit costly, but better to do it than to live with 'what ifs'. Perfectly normal to have doubts, just dont let them take over Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 32Aug 15, 2008 9:54 pm tygwyn Bottom line is, it doesnt have to be forever. If it doesnt work out then you move on. Yes it might be a bit costly, but better to do it than to live with 'what ifs'. very true tygwyn, well said. Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 33Aug 16, 2008 10:39 am donuts we wanted a tree/seachange. Decided that we couldn't afford to be right on the coast ( though for what it is costing us now we probably could have) and decided to pick something close to a major regional centre so there were all the facilities if we needed them. But we wanted somewhere smallish, for the kinds of reasons you mentioned. somewhere less shopping centre orientated for the kids as they grew up . etc. I would love to be on acreage. we will have 3/4 of an acre in town. So we are not allowed "livestock" so no horses, alpaca's etc for us. drats! DH says it;s like going back to a safer time. well it's not exactly but it does feel nicer. The kids especially the eldest loves it. And it was him we were very worried about. We also wanted to be further from neighbours as we were sick of inconsiderate neighbours living in close proximity. Our 3/4 of an acre block is the compromise we found. We had loved our last house/suburb but had noticed a huge change in the atmosphere of it over the last 3-4 years. having lived there from when it was a brand spanking new suburb 19 years ago it had really changed. It's in an area that is reasonably good but the general tone wasn't anywhere as nice as it had been. Lots of rentals, lots of "lack of care" for the neighbour hood" in our small court of 24 houses at least 16 of them had become rentals. It does make a difference if there are lots of rentals in a street. Yes I know that sounds snobby. A huge proportion of renters don't seem to give a toss about looking after yard, and if the owner does minimal upkeep and maintenance then the houses start to look tatty. If you get 2/3rds of the renters who don't give a ##### then the street starts to look bad.
We "wanted out" of suburbia. In truth we are about 2 1/2 hours drive from my Mum. Its not that far. Not babysitting distance though. There is university access, cinemas, tafe , pretty much all the same standard shops we'd have in Perth within 30 minutes drive but we are in the country and in the Southwest where it is slightly cooler ( ha! bloo## freezing) all things we wanted. Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 34Aug 16, 2008 1:34 pm kexkez DH says it;s like going back to a safer time. well it's not exactly but it does feel nicer. I agree! Also agree about the rentals - there are a high proportion of those in our street but one by one they are getting knocked down to build townhouses - will probably still be rentals but will at least be new and look nice for a few years! Hope that doesn't come across as sounding snobby and anti-rental...I've been a house owner and renter myself and am first to admit I didn't care for my rentals nearly as much as I cared for my own places! Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 35Aug 16, 2008 5:09 pm We visited the block today. My wife had "a feeling of unease" which she said was worry about whether we are doing the right thing.
aaaarrrrrgggghhhhhhh Simon Building an architect designed home out of Insulated Concrete Forms on acreage in semi-rural SE Melbourne. Developer approval obtained, engineering complete, getting quotes Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 36Aug 16, 2008 11:09 pm It is a worry moving away from the safe and familiar and we also wondered early on if we had made the right decision selling up and moving 30 kms north. We've found that a lot of how you feel about your new suburb can depend on neighbours and the school community (if you have young ones).
We moved from our first house to our dream suburb by the beach (only 7 kms away) and found the local community was very different, pretty snobby and unfriendly - the neighbours worked long hours and weren't interested in socialising much. In the entire three years I didn't learn the neighbours names. Thankfully our friends and family weren't too far away but I did feel sorry for my DD as she didn't have many local kids to play with. We sold this property and moved some distance from our usual stomping ground, to a new community and everyone seems lovely. Our DD doesn't go to the local school but a private school in the city (where we work). We were a bit worried that she wouldn't have friends close to home but she's pretty outgoing and has touched base with the kids in the street and made friends even before we moved in. Her new school is great and the kids and parents are terrific. I guess the bottom line is that you can always travel for friendships and social networks and that you don't need to have close connections with neighbours ... but it sure is nice if they are friendly and happy to engage even in a low key way. Simon your partner's 'unease' might be due to the newness of it all ... I can remember feeling uneasy myself lots of times in the early days! Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 37Aug 17, 2008 9:03 am The Dynamic Duo We visited the block today. My wife had "a feeling of unease" which she said was worry about whether we are doing the right thing. aaaarrrrrgggghhhhhhh Simon Hi Simon, What is the source of this 'unease' that your wife is experiencing. I too am one of these people that often go by my gut feelings and often there is a very good reason. For example...is it the immediate neighbourhood, a feeling of neglect, obvious signs of renters and landlords who have little interest in the upkeep of their properties or maybe the aspect of your property...dosent have the right outlook. There could be many reasons but I think this should not be dismissed but rather looked into a bit more. I think both of you need to happy but I agree with all the other posters that 'dont live a life of regrets' and 'what ifs'. Mrs B Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 38Aug 17, 2008 9:43 am Mrs B Hi Simon, What is the source of this 'unease' that your wife is experiencing. I too am one of these people that often go by my gut feelings and often there is a very good reason. For example...is it the immediate neighbourhood, a feeling of neglect, obvious signs of renters and landlords who have little interest in the upkeep of their properties or maybe the aspect of your property...dosent have the right outlook. There could be many reasons but I think this should not be dismissed but rather looked into a bit more. I think both of you need to happy but I agree with all the other posters that 'dont live a life of regrets' and 'what ifs'. Mrs B IThe houses in the immediate neighbourhood are all good quality, owned and occupied by families. There are a few rented properties on the estate but these would be in the minority. The main thing I think is that although our kids are only 3 years old now, my wife is concerned about the type of children they might end up socialising with later in life. She has seen a few bogany type people at the local shopping centre that she wasn't too impressed with and worries that our kids are going to end up mixing with, or worse, looking like them......! I used to feel very positive about the whole thing but I find I am also not as excited as I used to be....... Simon Building an architect designed home out of Insulated Concrete Forms on acreage in semi-rural SE Melbourne. Developer approval obtained, engineering complete, getting quotes Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 39Aug 17, 2008 9:56 am The Dynamic Duo Mrs B Hi Simon, What is the source of this 'unease' that your wife is experiencing. I too am one of these people that often go by my gut feelings and often there is a very good reason. For example...is it the immediate neighbourhood, a feeling of neglect, obvious signs of renters and landlords who have little interest in the upkeep of their properties or maybe the aspect of your property...dosent have the right outlook. There could be many reasons but I think this should not be dismissed but rather looked into a bit more. I think both of you need to happy but I agree with all the other posters that 'dont live a life of regrets' and 'what ifs'. Mrs B IThe houses in the immediate neighbourhood are all good quality, owned and occupied by families. There are a few rented properties on the estate but these would be in the minority. The main thing I think is that although our kids are only 3 years old now, my wife is concerned about the type of children they might end up socialising with later in life. She has seen a few bogany type people at the local shopping centre that she wasn't too impressed with and worries that our kids are going to end up mixing with, or worse, looking like them......! I used to feel very positive about the whole thing but I find I am also not as excited as I used to be....... Simon There's rubbish (people wise) everywhere Simon. The most trouble I had as a teenage girl and into my early twenties was from private school educated boys from "nice" families who felt they could take what they wanted. Boys from the east and the bayside suburbs. I've lived in the lovely eastern suburbs, the outer north west, country Vic and the inner west. Our cars were stolen and vandalised in the east, I've been hassled more in the east. But the east is supposedly where the "nice" people live and the "rubbish" is in the west. From the "look" of people, the inner west should be where all the trouble is, but I have found the opposite. Your kids are going to come accross unscrupulous, morally dubious kids wherever they live and go to school. And as they get older, how they choose to look becomes they least of the problems.. Jo I leave you to fend for yourself, figure things out yourself. Terrence Malick Re: Is anyone getting nervous about moving to a new suburb? 40Aug 17, 2008 10:06 am I was really hoping someone was going to say something like that.
I'm sure this is last-minute nerves, now the house is about to become real, as it were, as opposed to just a drawing on a piece of paper. Thank you very much for your advice and support. I feel silly for having started this thread really......... Simon Building an architect designed home out of Insulated Concrete Forms on acreage in semi-rural SE Melbourne. Developer approval obtained, engineering complete, getting quotes Hello everyone, I have a question regarding moving a chandelier after it has been mounted. The chandelier in question is quite large, measuring 4 meters… 0 72341 Use a product like Equisol's Vitalise to clean the deck then coat with a penetrating timber oil. It will look 10 years younger and add value to your home. Visit for… 1 15801 How much are you ahead in payments compared to where the build is at? Have you fully drawn down the loan? 5 11933 |