A very tactful reply, Helyn.
Browse Forums General Discussion Re: Why cant i have that....... 41Nov 11, 2009 6:52 pm Quote: I am very glad my children have not had all that wealth when they were young - we were 'rich' enough for them not to miss out on anything important but 'poor' enough for them not to have everything - I think you grow up appreciating things better that way and I want them to know that things come when you work hard and save up. A very tactful reply, Helyn. Re: Why cant i have that....... 42Nov 11, 2009 7:09 pm Neverfinished Quote: I am very glad my children have not had all that wealth when they were young - we were 'rich' enough for them not to miss out on anything important but 'poor' enough for them not to have everything - I think you grow up appreciating things better that way and I want them to know that things come when you work hard and save up. A very tactful reply, Helyn. Agreed! I was going to reply, but decided it was best if I didn't 'A bottle of wine contains more philosophy than all the books in the world.' Louis Pasteur Vegie garden: viewtopic.php?f=19&t=27637&start=0 My Backyard Adventure Re: Why cant i have that....... 43Nov 11, 2009 7:11 pm Helyn I am very glad my children have not had all that wealth when they were young - we were 'rich' enough for them not to miss out on anything important but 'poor' enough for them not to have everything - I think you grow up appreciating things better that way and I want them to know that things come when you work hard and save up. For example, I would never buy my children a new car at any age but I would help them toward a 2nd hand one that they had worked and saved toward. Help them when they help themselves, thats my motto This has been our way of bringing up our kids Helyn they had the biggest bombs of cars, with a little help from their dad, but only a little. I would honestly hate to think if they had everything from an early age, what would happen if it were lost and they had nothing suddenly. Now my daughter has her own business, she was so determined to have that, and son...well he still hasn't matured completely, still trying to find his way a bit Re: Why cant i have that....... 44Nov 11, 2009 7:13 pm Quote: Agreed! I was going to reply, but decided it was best if I didn't This was my third version. The others would have had me banned from the forum. Re: Why cant i have that....... 46Nov 11, 2009 7:19 pm Edited to add: Keeping to the topic of jealousy (Which I am one of the few to admit to on this thread ) I just checked out the additions to your blog, Joles, and despite the kitchen problems, I will admit to feelings of envy over the spaciousness of your new house. The alfresco is huge and gorgeous. Re: Why cant i have that....... 47Nov 11, 2009 7:29 pm You are all so funny. FYI I wasn't speaking literally about myself if that's what you thought. Yes some of it may be true in the fact that I am happy for people and their homes - not jealous. Right now I'd love to have many things but I'm only young and building my first home (**** duplex), which is a stepping stone so I have a list of things I have seen on this forum I want when I build my reall house DA approved Waiting on a few more Builder's quotes. Re: Why cant i have that....... 50Nov 11, 2009 7:37 pm Helyn Mandy, you did use the term "in my experience" - usually means one is talking about oneself And regardless of that, my comments still stand Yeh probably true, but in my experience of other people.........lol you understand anyways. BTW SuH it wasn't about me and I just turned 22 DA approved Waiting on a few more Builder's quotes. Re: Why cant i have that....... 51Nov 11, 2009 7:41 pm Neverfinished :lol: Edited to add: Keeping to the topic of jealousy (Which I am one of the few to admit to on this thread ) I just checked out the additions to your blog, Joles, and despite the kitchen problems, I will admit to feelings of envy over the spaciousness of your new house. The alfresco is huge and gorgeous. Even I'm jealous of Joles' house....and I have the same one, except minus one room. (I'm glad I don't have to mow that block though, lovely and spacious and private though it is ) When I was a kid, I just wanted to have a room of my own (never did). It was one thing I really wanted to give my kids, and finally, I have. Everything else, the buggers can work for. Re: Why cant i have that....... 52Nov 11, 2009 7:46 pm mandystoj Helyn Mandy, you did use the term "in my experience" - usually means one is talking about oneself And regardless of that, my comments still stand Yeh probably true, but in my experience of other people.........lol you understand anyways. BTW SuH it wasn't about me and I just turned 22 Quote: Right now I'd love to have many things but I'm only young and building my first home (**** duplex), which is a stepping stone so I have a list of things I have seen on this forum I want when I build my reall house Sorry this sounded like you were talking about yourself and sorry again I got it wrong, at 22 not many are lucky enough to have a new duplex. Re: Why cant i have that....... 53Nov 11, 2009 7:47 pm kek When I was a kid, I just wanted to have a room of my own (never did). It was one thing I really wanted to give my kids, and finally, I have. Everything else, the buggers can work for. That's one thing I'm greatful for, always had my own room! Although i only had 1 sibling growing up. I have had to work for everything else though and I certainly appreciate and value my lot in life as a result I can look at other peoples houses and think its nice and it would be lovely, but I'm more than happy with mine and I'm more than happy that it's not bigger as the cleaning of this place is enough! I've worked and earnt it and pay all my own bills and have for years. 'A bottle of wine contains more philosophy than all the books in the world.' Louis Pasteur Vegie garden: viewtopic.php?f=19&t=27637&start=0 My Backyard Adventure Re: Why cant i have that....... 55Nov 11, 2009 7:52 pm kek Neverfinished :lol: Edited to add: Keeping to the topic of jealousy (Which I am one of the few to admit to on this thread ) I just checked out the additions to your blog, Joles, and despite the kitchen problems, I will admit to feelings of envy over the spaciousness of your new house. The alfresco is huge and gorgeous. Even I'm jealous of Joles' house....and I have the same one, except minus one room. (I'm glad I don't have to mow that block though, lovely and spacious and private though it is ) When I was a kid, I just wanted to have a room of my own (never did). It was one thing I really wanted to give my kids, and finally, I have. Everything else, the buggers can work for. Thanks you guys. I am very happy with it. Yes, the block.... and we realised today, we don't have a lawnmower! Mum's blew up before she sold her house. It's a nice house.... but it comes with mother and no lanmower. Will swap for "**** duplex" of my own. I leave you to fend for yourself, figure things out yourself. Terrence Malick Re: Why cant i have that....... 56Nov 11, 2009 7:53 pm I was just saying to my Mum the other day that I am proud to have stood on my own two feet. I was extremely fortunate in that my parents were able and willing to support me throughout my 3 years of Uni, but the second I left I got a job and commenced paying board while I still lived at home. Ever since then it has been a point of pride for me to be self-supporting and never take a thing from them (except birthday gifts etc) - I feel they have done enough for me and I don't expect anymore. I too feel that you appreciate more the things you earn and work for than the things that are handed to you on a silver platter. I want to give my kids a good start educationally, just like my parents did for me but after that I would like them to be able to be self-sufficient in life. MagicJ I finally have my own reno thread: viewtopic.php?f=1&t=28335 The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue! Re: Why cant i have that....... 57Nov 11, 2009 7:56 pm SuH I have never, in my life, had my own room. My whole family slept in one bedroom, we only had one now I still have to share with DH and the dog SuH... while we have been building.... I have been sharing a room with DS... IN BUNKS! FOR TWO YEARS!!!! Oh how I am looking forward to enough space to swing a cat. He hits the walls here. I leave you to fend for yourself, figure things out yourself. Terrence Malick Re: Why cant i have that....... 58Nov 11, 2009 8:09 pm joles SuH I have never, in my life, had my own room. My whole family slept in one bedroom, we only had one now I still have to share with DH and the dog SuH... while we have been building.... I have been sharing a room with DS... IN BUNKS! FOR TWO YEARS!!!! Oh how I am looking forward to enough space to swing a cat. He hits the walls here. Re: Why cant i have that....... 59Nov 11, 2009 8:17 pm joles SuH I have never, in my life, had my own room. My whole family slept in one bedroom, we only had one now I still have to share with DH and the dog SuH... while we have been building.... I have been sharing a room with DS... IN BUNKS! FOR TWO YEARS!!!! Oh how I am looking forward to enough space to swing a cat. He hits the walls here. meoowwwwwwwwww Re: Why cant i have that....... 60Nov 11, 2009 8:18 pm Quote: When I was a kid, I just wanted to have a room of my own (never did). It was one thing I really wanted to give my kids, and finally, I have. I know the pain of sharing as I shared with my sister until I was 17. We had a line drawn through the centre of the room to show our space and my poor parents went crazy trying to adjudicate the fights if one person crossed the line. We had a toilet in the back yard. There was a school behind our back fence and I vividly remember the fear that someone would jump over the fence and grab me during my midnight dash to the toilet. Indoor toilets were for the rich. When we built our 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom house I was so proud with what my OH and I achieved. It was more than any of our relatives had ever had and I thought we would be happy forever. We still are as our block is big and I love my garden (like Helyn) but being a member of this forum has brought it home to me that we have stayed still and that if we had taken more risks we could have had so much more. I am not talking about expensive appliances and Poliform wardrobes but sheer space. It is hard to love your grown up children when you fall over them every step and the only privacy you get is in your bedroom. I will not apologise for being envious of people who have space for their families to spread out. When I refer to envy I do not mean, "Oh my God I hate you for what you have" but rather, "Oh I wished I had that space too". But then I read posts by people who have it all at a young age and I wonder if they will ever be truly contented as my OH and I were at their age. My eldest daughter dropped out of her double degree during her final year and now has a relatively low paying job. She is saving madly to buy her own home but it is an uphill struggle. I do not want to be unkind to people who have it all at a young age due to indulgent parents but it certainly grates when they are given everything and yet they seem to regard it as their due. I admire posters like Lisanne and the other single builders like Lynnebin1968, or people like Joles - not because of the size of their homes, but because of their work ethic. Edited to add: Joles - Sharing bunk beds with your son!! You win in the OMG I have suffered stakes. Hi All, I just wanted to close this topic out with an update. So we ended up agreeing to a number with the insurance company, and after an extensive amount of hand… 8 23401 That sucks! Hope it all works out. 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