Either put a mirror on the opposite wall of the offending light (that should get it to shine right back at them).
or
Get a bloody big dog, I doubt they will come knocking at your door then.
I hate bullies
Browse Forums General Discussion Re: Neighbours from hell! 21Aug 08, 2009 9:25 am Either put a mirror on the opposite wall of the offending light (that should get it to shine right back at them). or Get a bloody big dog, I doubt they will come knocking at your door then. I hate bullies Re: Neighbours from hell! 22Aug 08, 2009 9:42 am Thank you again for your words of support and ideas. It is really helpful to be able to write about our frustration and get feedback. We spent the night dreaming up imaginative and vindictive ways to manage spot lights and their behaviour which obviously we will not action but certainly made us feel better. As husband is an electrician we were thinking that we might install some spot lights of our own as it is important that our garden is well-lit (for health and safety reasons of course!) as we currently have no outside lighting.. We would not shine them into neighbours windows but as a show of strength and to let them see that if we wanted to sink to their level, we could! Would this be too provocative do you think? Remember we are not dealing with stable people Also we have decided to fit blinds to windows which would be pulled down at night to block out their spot lights and to make children feel more secure. On the one hand we feel that they will view it as a victory and possibly as a sign of weakness but we think it is more important that we, especially the kids, feel safe and secure from these neighbours prying eyes. It sounds like we are becoming a trifle obsessed about it all and we are trying hard to get on and ignore it but it is hard especially after their invasion the other night. Re: Neighbours from hell! 23Aug 08, 2009 9:58 am I think the spotlight is a good idea, we have three shining on our backyard, one very big one....as you say it wouldn't be pointed on them but could be. Also the blinds will show them you have dealt with their childish behaviour and will give you more privacy. I think your neighbours will rally around you eventually, nobody likes bullies. Re: Neighbours from hell! 24Aug 08, 2009 1:53 pm samantha We spent the night dreaming up imaginative and vindictive ways to manage spot lights and their behaviour which obviously we will not action but certainly made us feel better. As husband is an electrician we were thinking that we might install some spot lights quote] So, I was on the right track. Quote: Quote: MY OBSESSING STORY: The old man next door to us build this *&^%$ big shed right on the fence line. It blocks out the view and he used dirty 2nd hand tin on our side and new colour bond on their side and back of the shed. I mean you could park a prime mover in it (truck). He did it while I was away. I went off, for about 3 weeks I was so #$%^%$ at him, he only just moved in, we have lived here for over 40 years etc. One day I heard his daughter ask “I see the man next door is back, what he said about the shed". He replied " It’s my shed not his and its not on his property". I have never spoken to the old C%&# since. I see him for an old selfish prick, but he is old & I respect that. So I decided not to have the Bikie BBQ, or install the air craft landing lights. I have since accepted it, as it became an issue every time I walked out the back door. My point is: You can not controll the actions of other people, good or bad, right or wrong. Dont let them spoil your home. And by the way dont go to their level. I like to end on a quote about neighbours " The Bible tells us to love our neighbours, and also to love our enemies; probably because generally they are the same people. - Gilbert Keith Chesterton ... Ha Ha Keep us informed as to how it goes. KW.......... “It's just as unpleasant to get more than you bargain for as to get less” George Bernard Shaw. Re: Neighbours from hell! 25Aug 08, 2009 4:01 pm I've been involved in a minor situation like this with neighbours near me in the past, more to the point though I've seen the consequences of this between other neighbours, where one actually moved away. 1 couple had built a new house 3 years previously and 1 couple were actually in the middle of building. The 1st neighbour did'nt like all the things the 2nd were doing to thier place as it was only meant to be a reno and they ended up having to totally rebuild because of termites. Anyway the 2nd people are pretty hot headed, though understandable as building is very stressful, the 1st couple were complaining to council and trying to get other neighbours against the 2nd, me included, I told him to "get lost" and "that it appeared ok for him to have a new house a not others". Anyway things got really ugly, assault accusations, AVO's and even worse assault allegations, I watched the whole thing unfold and stayed right out of it. 1st neighbours sold thier house and moved around the corner, new ones moved in and it has been peaceful ever since. My advice is to try to find a point where you both can agree on something, document everything in case it gets really ugly. It's best to try and get something resolved now rather than later. Maybe give in to 1 demand such as the frosted glass and see if that helps. Maybe tell them if they want to add to the fence height they should pay for it. Barging into your door sounds like an attempted home invasion also, not good. Hope things work out. Re: Neighbours from hell! 26Aug 08, 2009 6:25 pm Blinds or mirrored tint layed over the window. As stated it will stop them shining light into the window and they will not be able to see anyone near your window. Stand your ground but do not get agressive towards them at all. They could be cowards and maliciously damage your property, or they could be crazy enough to physically harm you or your family. No point being knifed or shot over this. Re: Neighbours from hell! 28Aug 08, 2009 7:13 pm My heart really goes out to you, as we have just moved into our brand new house after having to sell our original dream home due to the neighbours from hell. Could you install some skylights and then install those metal roller shutters externally on the windows that face their property? This way they can't say you're looking at them as the windows will be blocked and you won't have their lights shining in. I know this sounds extreme, but these situations can really ruin your quality of life. Re: Neighbours from hell! 29Aug 08, 2009 9:19 pm Put some external privacy screens on the windows this way you will be able to still have light and airflow. Good luck. http://take2-customdesigndownslope.blogspot.com 07-10-09 omg they have cut the block 14-05-10 we finally have the keys Re: Neighbours from hell! 30Aug 08, 2009 9:42 pm From another neighbour thread. There is no winning with nut jobs. Don't engage the crazies. Get some shutters and be done with it. Let them think they have won. I think they have a case of sour grapes cause they have realised how crap their house looks compared to yours. Good luck. P.S for them to see your son 'looking' in their window, they had to have been looking in yours. Re: Neighbours from hell! 31Aug 08, 2009 9:56 pm well I agree with Heathen and KW (and maybe a few others!!) that trying to resolve the issue is the best plan. We have seen other posts about neighbour disputes on this forum before, and they never turn out well. Who wants to get police involved, attend court hearings, make affidavit after affidavit - what a menace, and with people you may well see regularly (and your kids)... bad news. Stay away from this result. Of course they are pigs. OK< we all agree. But if it were me, I would not be worried about pride, I would be concerned with how my children see me handling disputes in general. I know I'm starting to over-philsophise here, so I'll stop - but you get the picture. If you are the smarter person, and clearly you are, you need to rise above their indifference and ignorance of these people. You don't have to be intimidated. Obviously banging on your front door has given you a fright (and it would me too!), but see if your DH can go over and try to resolve the issue AND also set boundries about going to your door after dark. Revengeful tactics like shining lights back on them, sounds to me like a recipe for disaster. AND no doubt they will up the anty (by the sounds of their past actions) every time. Just a loosing battle. If you want to live there happily, you need to try and make peace with them, not best mates, but some reasonable result. Good luck. A thankful person is a happy person. [/color]My hobby design blog: http://aviewondesign.blogspot.com/ Re: Neighbours from hell! 32Aug 16, 2009 8:55 pm Well it has been over a week and happily no more late abusive visits. We have had a reflective tint put on the upstairs hallway window which has made the children feel better as the neighbours can't see them as clearly during the day. Tomorrow blinds will be installed on all the windows and doors (5 in total) that their spotlights shine through so that solves the problem at night and we will be able to eat dinner without feeling we are about to be interrogated! We have bought established screening trees to plant in plant boxes on our boundary fence so to increase privacy further. We have also ordered security door for front door. Above was very costly process but worth it for children's (and ours) peace of mind. Neighbours have now changed globe of one spotlight (which shines directly into window with reflective tint) to a green globe. We are curious can anyone think of any reasons why they might do this? Anyway as I mentioned in previous posts it was very helpful to receive all the feedback from everyone so we just want to keep everyone who was interested updated. Re: Neighbours from hell! 33Aug 16, 2009 9:29 pm Sam Sounds like things will settle down. I think you did the correct thing, played it cool. Well done. Im not sure about what the green light means but if they put up a red one can you please give me the address. Cheers KW........... “It's just as unpleasant to get more than you bargain for as to get less” George Bernard Shaw. Re: Neighbours from hell! 35Aug 16, 2009 10:40 pm Hey, hopefully you have not had any more drama's. My two cents worth- My Mum had similar problems, after tooing and froing for weeks, we did very similar things as you to her house. We also invited everyone in the street to an unbelievable house warming party with a jumping castle for the kids and a DJ with a whole sound and light system set up. Everyone in the street and three families from over the back fence were invited except the neighbours from Hell. We also registered the party with police and notified the council. One thing we didn't think ove was to screen off their side of the fence witha marquee or something. We had heads popping over the fence to have a sticky. The result: Mum had a bunch of flowers and a letter of apology on her doorstep on the Sunday morning. I really, really hope your situation has resolved itself, but, there are other ways of getting your point across. Building a H3nl3y Charleton- its a home, not a house. Re: Neighbours from hell! 37Aug 17, 2009 12:35 pm I am wondering if a green light enables them to see more than a bright white light There'll be a ** reasoning behind that, but I am glad you have taken those steps at least and glad you haven't had to see them again. Good luck Samantha Re: Neighbours from hell! 38Aug 17, 2009 1:50 pm Carmel From another neighbour thread. There is no winning with nut jobs. Don't engage the crazies. Get some shutters and be done with it. Let them think they have won. I think they have a case of sour grapes cause they have realised how crap their house looks compared to yours. Good luck. P.S for them to see your son 'looking' in their window, they had to have been looking in yours. this window says it all Re: Neighbours from hell! 39Aug 17, 2009 7:01 pm Isn't green or blue lighting meant to make a person edgy? The councils put them in public toilets to deter drug addicts/people hanging because the constant coloured light affects the human brain in some way. I could be wrong. If I were you I would keep complaining to the council - you have a right of enjoyment in your own home and a neighbour shining a light deliberately through your window constitutes harassment on their part. How is loud music any different to a shining light - and the council would jump at the chance to tell you to turn the music down. Having said that, I'd invite them over for a bbq and try and make friends first. They'll see you are nice people and may give up. Re: Neighbours from hell! 40Aug 17, 2009 7:38 pm wce1293 Isn't green or blue lighting meant to make a person edgy? The councils put them in public toilets to deter drug addicts/people hanging because the constant coloured light affects the human brain in some way. I could be wrong. If I were you I would keep complaining to the council - you have a right of enjoyment in your own home and a neighbour shining a light deliberately through your window constitutes harassment on their part. How is loud music any different to a shining light - and the council would jump at the chance to tell you to turn the music down. Having said that, I'd invite them over for a bbq and try and make friends first. They'll see you are nice people and may give up. Councils use the blue light as it makes it harder for the junkies to see their veins.... 'A bottle of wine contains more philosophy than all the books in the world.' Louis Pasteur Vegie garden: viewtopic.php?f=19&t=27637&start=0 My Backyard Adventure it depends on the natural ground level, if they excavated their boundary wall needed to be built as a retaining wall. 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