Hi T, what sad news for your friend, but you know what what, she is probably too good for him anyway, but like kiwi said, it's never ever easy....
Luv the the light, looks very shmick!
As for the solid door, we have two opening doors, & if you don't have a light source somewhere, it does make the entry dark, we have a void in the entry & 3 glass panels on the upper floor above the doors, so the entry still gets heaps of light.

You're very brave T. Good onya for thinking of your friend and not yourself.

Kiwi, thanks for correcting my spelling mistake. Good job you got rid of the first punk. . . You did, didn't you?

Sunshine - I adore your pendant, it's on my want list for above our dining table, which size did you get? Where did you purchase it from?

Glad it was a good outcome with your friend T, nor an easy thing to do. Was this the friend who had bc? I can see why you dedicated it to dear kiwi, got chocked up reading her post. . .love you Nic
Yes & back to the building great choice of pendant

Loretta

T-more women should have freinds true enough to do what you did.

Love the effect from the pendant.

GB - I don't anyone is ready for that kind of betrayal and crap. Thanks for comments on pendant

Absolutely. 10 fold.


Thanks jodge. I was trembling when I told her, but absolutely the right thing to have done. I called her first thing this morning. A sleeping tablet helped her get through the night but this morning she said she was relieved she knows - it all makes 110% sense now (there have been a zillion signs and things not right that she was trying to ignore). Best of all, she sounded determined, said it makes the financial settlement easier as she has no sympathy for him and she is is going to make the most of when she lets him know she knows.


We got the 600 dia. 800 dia looks amazing, but would have been too big for our stairwell. We paid $439 including the fancy globe ($6.60 I think). Comes with the ceiling rose, fitting etc. That was 10% discount as we told them we were building (so she put Zen Homes in their system against the light). We bought it from Mondo Luce in Surry Hills. The other store (which is linked to Mondo) is Exhibit in Waterloo. Strangely it seemed to be more expensive to buy on the net (http://www.lumentec.com.au) which would have been $491 plus globe plus freight.

No, a different friend. The friend who had bc, her husband left her about 5 or more years ago. So sad that more and more people I know are going through these tough times. Thanks for comment Loretta. Yes, big hugs to kiwi, and all other women who have endured this.

Thanks x 2 Dee. Even in the car driving over I was wondering whether I shouldn't tell her, but now I realise it was absolutely 100% the right thing. And although devastated, my friend said she feels like a fool all this time (which of course she isn't, he is just deeply dishonest) and she is glad to now finally know rather than continue the lie.

T, I'm glad you had the strength to tell her, it would have been the hardest thing to do, not knowing her reaction, she is lucky that she now knows she can trust you completely, everyone needs a friend like that

ooww, just came on line and read I had a post dedicated to me, thank you! (and to those who have also given me cyber high fives re scum bag men and what we have to go through) THANK YOU
and yes jodge...he never came back. I SOOOOO thought he would. I thought if I just hoped enough, he would see the light and return to the fold.
So 5 marriages later for him (including me being the first..whoaoa) I guess he wasnt coming back.

still hard when you are the dumped one though. not fun. your self esteem is zero, esp as the marriage was good and lots of fun and laughs..then GONE>>>>>>>>>

met and married a pom (the first one was an ozzie) after 4 yrs of being a single mum.

just 2 cents worth..the last thing I wanted to hear was 'it will be ok, you will move on'
right then..it wasnt alright, I didnt want to move on, I wanted my husband of 5 yrs back...

so just be aware....

25 yrs on I can say, phew d0dged a bullet there...but not at the time when It was so raw.

good luck to your friend. time will heal, but she doesnt want to hear that now..she will just want to spout off.
and good luck to anyone reading this whose marriage is not as good as you had hoped it would be..sort it before one of you leaves. much easier...and not as sad.



ok, so pendant...LOVE IT!
will look great in that space.

6 weeks and you will be in??

Love the pendant ...

and your dedication to Nic ... well deserved, she is a font of wisdom

Sunshine you have given your friend a powerful weapon - knowledge. When she has time to digest she will realise that she now has some power over this twit that has made her feel so bad through no fault of hers ... well done and what a true friend - through thick and thin!! Salute to you ... so hard to do but so necessary .. how could you have lived with the knowledge and not told her ... he would have made you feel bad too. Complex isn't it? That's life I suppose ...

I'm glad things went ok with your friend T.
Also sorry to hear you went through something similar kiwi. Can't believe he has married 5 more times, that's insane!!
Hugs to you both x

S'alright Kiwi .. . everything'll be ok. . . you'll move on.

ha ha
well, I didnt!

Proud of you T xxxx

Kiwi xx What a huge life lesson......

Hugs from far away Queensland for all of my gorgeous H1 friends.

Maybe in another 25 years eh!

thanks okjorg, Annette, greenfish, kiwi, gogo

funny, I was so consumed by what happened yesterday that when writing about the pendant (as I really wanted to post on here about it after all my cyber dilemma on choosing a pendant) I just couldn't not write about what happened. But then in the car on the way from my friend's house, M, I thought it was all a bit personal for a public forum so I planned on deleting my posts about it today. Then read all your lovely messages and decided to leave it up. Especially after kiwi's amazing courage and honesty to share her story.

Kiwi deserves the dedication and much more. Real pearls of wisdom too.

epilogue: spoke to M a few times today and it's like a switch has been flicked. She is shaking off her attachment to him and already preparing to speak to lawyers next week about getting a decent financial settlement (as you can imagine he is trying to F her over with the money too).

Back to the build... We checked out the pendant at the house today and love it. Need to get it installed before scaffolding comes down. But can you believe it - still no glazing in our windows. Had long chat to Andrew about it Friday and the window company is really screwing him around so he asked me to call the window guy. I did and left a scary legal message, then within a few minutes the window guy called back the other Zen guy, Mat, and said this week. Yeah right. Meanwhile, yesterday amidst the horrible stuff you know about we had part our kitchen installed. Not all 100% to plan, but we were fine with the differences and looks great. Only part in though, so will take photos when complete which isn't likely to be for another week or so.

kiwi - 6 weeks? hm... I would hope so but don't know so....

There are no certainties in life. Even happy marriages can end badly through no fault on your part.. All I can add is "if there's any crrap in your relationship, get rid of it. Show those you love, the love you feel for them and appreciate and acknowledge all the good things in your relationship. When you truly love someone, kids and friends included, you don't want to see them unhappy and you definitely don't want to be the cause of that unhappiness. It's two years this Wednesday 18th July that I have been living without the love of my life, taken from me by a careless elderly driver. And 27 year wedding anniversary on the 27th July. It's a hard lesson to learn. Now I can only be with him in my dreams. That's why I'm called Dreams R Good.

There are gems to read here dear readers, it proves that good stuff can come even out of dark places in life...
Knowledge is easily gotten but WISDOM only comes from experience.

DRG - I get shivers every time I read or think about your story. So true, every word you say. Thank you for offering your perspective. So true. I am going to give my DH and DS sitting on the couch a big hug right now. Little DD is already snug in my bed.

DreamsRG, my heart goes out to you xxxx

I did the same T. I read it twice then left my computer to go and tell DH that I love him. Hope your dreams are great tonight DRG x